Sunday, April 01, 2012
Honest Talk with Yourself
I've been having a very interesting discussion with my brother Jeff over at, Have Coffee Will Write. He is one of the more well read folks you will ever meet, sincere, an excellent writer.
We have been soul searching as we deal with the death of Trayvon Martin and uncovering some interesting tidbits. Love and respect imbued and I might add received rebuke flow both ways. I appreciate the different point of view as I think we perhaps both allow our opinions to be jostled around.
Can our society, as opposed to our nation, move forward without soul searching, true dialogue and even confession? I don't see how we can. Can we improve others before we have improved ourselves? How can we improve ourselves if we have refused to see ourselves as we truly are? How can we see ourselves as we truly are without coming to terms with the warts and all? Can we come to terms with that when all we recognize is the euphemism, "warts and all," the truisms like, "oh everybody does that, nobody's perfect," our whatever we tell ourselves to excuse our lack of love our neighborism. Our "warts" cause us to consign folks to death and poverty as we say, "Go in peace, be warmed and filled; but give not to them the needful things for the body."(James 2:16)
So often I hear things like, "My parents came to America looking for a good life with only $2 between them; they made it, I don't see why those people can lift themselves up." The bottom line falsehood is I "raised myself up by my own bootstraps" or I built the house I was born in, I got mine now you get yours, ignoring the uneven terrain.
In the past I've just given up on such ubiquitous ignorance. I am not even surprised any more that it still exists. This basic lack of understanding and in my opinion lack of basic decency, because it is so ignorant... choosing to ignore it is not relegated to "race," or class, or religion or gender but we all identify with our special interest groups and point at the shortfalls in all of the other groups thus making ourselves just like them. So sadly much of the time I have to name myself among the careless.
I now realize that in life, in living and navigating through this world that the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it and narrow is the gate, and straitened the way, that leads unto life, and few are they that find it. There are few who find it because there are few who seek it out. Being comfortable at the expense of others is so easy, so easy. I check myself more and more to make sure I am on the right path going through the right gate. I cannot answer for you nor can I judge your heart but I can proffer the question; are you?